Would you like to be my friend?

So one of the reasons why I’ve been so lonely here is because I have no friends here.  I’ve spoken on the phone with family and friends.  I even had lunch with my homestay mom from St. Croix who has now moved to the Houston area.  But I don’t have any friends here in Friendswood. This got me thinking.

When you’re a kid you make friends without even thinking about it.  Katerina and I became friends in first grade simply for the reason that we shared the same name.  You find things in common and you become friends. You can just walk up to someone and ask them to be your friend. Being in school together obviously is a huge factor.

School helps as you get older as well.  High school and college; both places to meet new people and make new friends. After college you get a job.  You meet people and make friends at your job.  You do the bar scene when you’re single.  You meet new people through people you already know. 

How do you make friends when you are 27, married and living in a new city?  I still haven’t found the answer to that.  But it got me thinking how much easier making friends is as a kid then it is as an adult.  You can't really just walk up to an adult and say "would you like to be my friend?"  I mean I guess you could lol. Has anyone ever experienced this? I’m sure other military wives have.  I thought I’d ask about this on a military spouse forum.  All the responses I got were from women with children.  Their common denominator seemed to be making new friends with other women who also had children.  They met at playgrounds, mommy and me classes, daycare etc. I’m not there yet, the only kids I currently have are of the four legged variety lol.  I know once I get a job I’ll make friends.  But it’s kinda like, well what do I do until I get a job?

Please don’t think I’m feeling sorry for myself again or being a downer. I'm doing much better than the first time Patrick was gone. I’m truly intrigued by this from a social aspect.  How do you make friends as an adult?  

Ironically last night on a rerun of The Bing Bang Theory, Sheldon was trying to work on his social skills to make friends and even went to the book store to find a book to help him. Obviously unlike Sheldon I do have “normal” social skills lol but it did make me think maybe the library would be a social avenue.  I haven't been to the library here yet (did find out it's like 2 blocks from my house) so I’m going to visit the library either sometime this weekend or this week.  Will I meet anyone while I'm there?  Will I make any adult friends?  Stay tuned for the results of my first "test" in the adult friendship social experiment!